Bobbi Kyle Gutierrez
You deserve to live a life that is truly yours, free from the constraints and expectations imposed by others.
Hi, I'm Bobbi
And I'm in the business of misery... Okay, not really, but as a Marriage & Family Therapist, I hear a lot of stories about the challenges and struggles that people face in their lives. (And if you caught the Paramore reference, high five to you!)
I’m here to tell you that feeling deeply and embracing your emotions to create a life based on your own standards is okay. Embracing your emotions can be scary, but it doesn’t always need to be. I help people make wiser decisions that actually move them closer to where they want to be, rather than being sucked into emotionally messy situations. When you can’t figure out why you have multiple problems in your life you can feel awful about yourself. Our work will find the connection, or the “golden thread” and we will create strategies, so you feel worthy and realize you aren’t broken. The results are relief and confidence. We can only move beyond our feelings by truly experiencing our emotions. Embracing our emotions in this way helps us build confidence in our ability to handle our deepest feelings as they arise.
To help create a life that honors your authentic and genuine self, it's essential to have an understanding of your internal world and the experiences that have shaped who you are. You deserve to lead a life that is truly yours, without being held back or pressured by other people's expectations and demands. By embracing your unique identity and honoring your own values, you can pave the way for a warm and rewarding journey of self-discovery.
It's ok to express yourself, to take up space, and to be honest with how you're feeling.
🖤 Your feelings are valid! 💜
I consider myself an Elder Emo - someone who grew up loving black clothing, band tees, and concerts. But as I tried to conform to society's expectations as a young adult, I felt miserable and lost. It wasn't until I did some deep introspective work (aka therapy) and focused on my own needs that I realized what was missing: authenticity.
That's why I founded Elder Emo Therapy - to provide a safe and welcoming space where my clients can come as they are, with no need to pretend or hide their true selves. I believe that therapy should be a place where you feel fully seen and heard, where you can be vulnerable and honest without fear of judgment. We’ve spent WAY too much of our lives being told to, or feeling like we need to pretend that we’re okay or someone we’re not…. Spoiler alert:
THAT’S NOT OKAY.
As a therapist I want you to feel…
💜 Seen.
🖤 Supported.
💜 Respected.
🖤 Understood.
💜 Cared For.
🖤 Helped.
Education & Training
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #142561
Santa Clara University - Master of Arts, Counseling Psychology, emphasis in Correctional Psychology
Level 1 Gottman
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP)
Fees & Services
I typically meet with clients weekly for 45-50 minutes per session.
My fee is $180 for individuals & $200 for couples with some reduced fee options available.
I work with pre-teens/teens, individuals, and couples.
Specialty Areas
Childhood Trauma & Attachment
Communication
ADHD*
Questioning/Late in life diagnosed ADHD & Autism*
Relationships
Self-Worth
ENM & polyamorous folks
LGBTQIA+ community
* I cannot diagnose ADHD or Autism, however, I can support clients in pursuing a formal diagnosis should they choose to
A bit about me…
🖤 I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist.
💜 I am a collaborative, trauma-informed, and culturally & neurodiverse affirming therapist.
🖤 I am a supporter & member of the LGBQTIA+ community 🏳️🌈
💜 Lover of cats! I have 4 adorable cats… you might just meet one or two in the office *wink*
🖤 Bay Area Native.
💜 I am an avid reader.
🖤 I’ve been to therapy as a client.
💜 Enneagram 2 (social instinct)
🖤 Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
💜 I used to be concert photographer!
